Dear Femme fatale,

Indeed I’m aware of the story but I must confess I haven’t been following it as a matter of duty. You see, the love lives of actresses and their lovers don’t pay my mortgage or fuel my car or buy my Christian Louboutin shoes.

That said; the matter of the so called Society for Nigerian Women has pinched my arm. I am now totally interested in the entire sordid affair.

Who are these Society for Nigerian Women? I am not a member, are you? Do you know any Nigerian woman who’s a member? Who appointed them? Who elected their leaders? Who are they representing? Not me. Who gave them the authority to carry out demonstration on my behalf?

The way I see it, the man is Nigerian, his first wife is Nigerian, Miss Mercy Johnson is Nigerian, and in Nigeria polygamy is not a crime.

I must say, the only person that’s been acting like an ass in all this is the first wife. Miss Johnson has maintained a dignified silence throughout and the only public washing of dirty linen has been done by the other woman.

It is not by force to remain married o! If someone stops loving you and they want to move on, let them. And if someone wants to become a second wife who has the right to tell them not to? How many of these Society For Nigerian Women members are not second or third or fourth wives? I’d like to know.

As for the first wife, the lady is a woman scorned and she’s all out to destroy the guy. She has fall my hand because she could have gone about it in a totally different manner instead of this global show of yansh she’s done to herself and her little kids. I mean, what man will ever feel safe to marry her now? If my brother says he wants to date such a woman I will warn him that madness can only be partially cured.

I have absolutely no advice for Mercy because she’s done no wrong falling in love and because it will be unfair to drag her into this matter. I know, it sounds silly saying that ‘cus its all about her wedding plans in the first place, but she did not ask for this fight. She did not go to the man’s happy home and force him to leave his wife and kids and follow her. She has not resorted to name calling and media bashing. She, I dare say, is the real victim in all this.

Back to this Society for Nigerian Women - I am going to join issues with them as a matter of principle. If indeed they seek to represent me then I want to know why they are spending their time getting involved in other people’s lives when women are still being marginalised in business and in politics in Nigeria.

If they truly represent me then I want them to carry their demonstration to Aso Rock and ask Jonathan why women are being picked off the roads of Abuja by the AEPB to be humiliated, molested, raped (yes, raped. Forcefully touching up a girl in the name of searching her or arresting her is rape), extorted, and charged with prostitution. I will join that march.

How can women stand and look when other women are being treated in this way? What if one of those girls wants to run for senate or even president in the future? Some stupid men will go and dig up the fact that she was charged with prostitution and use that to kill her ambition.

And so what if some of them are prostitutes? So what? Have you provided decent jobs for them? Have you given them better chances in life? Please!

This so called Society For Nigerian woman have really fall my hand. Who send them job?

Aunty Ngozi